Marriage is a future to many, if not all Singles. Marriage is something every  single is desperate to enter, if not for anything, for the purpose of easing sexual urge.

Mind you, I want to make this one thing very clear to you, Sexual Urge is something that is innate in Man. What do I mean by innate. It’s natural. It’s just there ,as long as you’re living and putting on the flesh.

But then, I hope you know also that Spirit do have Sexual urges too. Hmm… I know this one is deep.

I know, you might be asking, what do you mean by that?

What is this one even saying?

But before anything or concluding yet, just follow me.

Though, this is not our focus for this study but then I think I will touch this a little for better understanding of this study.

You see, there are mysteries in this kingdom we are yet to come into but as we do business (hmm…) and go deeper with God, these mysteries are unraveled bit by bit.

However, Apostle Paul confessed, we know in part, and we prophesy in part… Hmmm.

I hope you’re following up. Stay Connected! We are going somewhere.

And If then you still doubt my words concerning the Spirit and Sexual Urge. I want to ask you, have you forgotten we have what is called Lust and we know there’s a Spirit behind it, called the Spirit of Lust… Hmm.

Stay Connected, we’re still going somewhere.

Now let’s take a look at the scripture  for better clarity.

Genesis 6:2 “That the sons of God saw the daughters of men that they were fair; and they took them wives of all which they chose.

I hope you can see this above. Anyway, this not our focus for this study, let’s move on to what we have for the study.


You see, young girls and dear Singles, the main reason for most marriage disasters and failed Marriages today is an illusion many ignorant couples had before they entered, of which I, by the grace of God will be pinpointing in the course of this Study.

Listen dear Singles, Marriage can fail.

You see, whatever that can succeed, can also fail too, if the proper approach is not taken or put into consideration.

Many Marriages has failed, I say again. The rate of Divorcees is increasing day by day and I wish yours will not to be amongst them, if you know this basic truth, I’ll be sharing in this study.

Now, let’s move-in quickly into these 3 salient things you should know before you say I do or accept that Marriage proposal.

Mind you, if you don’t marry him, you’re not yet loosing anything, not even an opportunity once you’re on the right track. Anyway, we’ll be looking more into this below.


I have heard people say things like, I’ll marry so that I can stay with one woman or one man.

Hmm… I think you’re making a whole lot of mistake here and need to rethink and re-examine your ways at the illumination of this truth dropping now.

Dear Singles, listen to me. The cure to fornication, Adultery and all other sexual sins and sin in totality is the presence of the HolySpirit at work in you and not your strength.

But, what about what Apostle Paul wrote to the Believers in Corinthians, let’s take a brief look into it as we make progress.

1 Corinthians 7:2, “Now to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Hmm… This is so deep but then I want to clear you on something here.

Remember, Paul was writing to the Believers at Corinthians and not to unbelievers, however men and women of the Spirit. That’s no. 1 point I want you to note.

Okay, now let’s take same scripture from (New Living Translation, NLT)

1 Corinthians 7:2
[2]But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.

Remember, the bible tells us, “…no scripture is of any human interpretation. This is to say, going by the direct context of the writings, can be misleading and deadly.

By divine revelation, I can boldly tell you that what Apostle Paul was actually saying is that, because of the Sexual urge in us (innate you remembered), we can ease it when we take a partner, however a wife or husband (marry) and avoid temptation of messing up but you remembered Apostle Paul never married.

So you don’t go and fornicate and claim it’s because you’re not yet Married.

Marriage is not a cure for fornication or Adultery. The HolySpirit is.

This is a salient point I want you to know before thinking of Marriage at the first place or accepting that proposal.

Before you Marry, have you accepted Jesus? And has your would-be spouse found Jesus before finding you. This is also very important. Anyway we’ll be looking into this in the preceding point.

Apostle John in his First Epistle, made a profound Confession.

1 John 3:9 Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.

Can you see that Scripture above. He cannot fornicate. She cannot fornicate not because you’re married now but his seed (Presence of HolySpirit). Let’s take good note of this, as we move on.

It’s very glaring that most Marriage that fail today are Marriages that are not strongly built on the solid rock, Christ.

Out Of Christ, is just the intrusion of Crisis. Note this too.

Galatians 5:22-23 New King James Version (NKJV)

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 [a]gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law

The last fruit listed among others above is Self control and only come by and through the agency of the HolySpirit.

Embrace God, the originator of Marriage before that proposal.


Man was placed by God In the garden of Eden, however God gave man his presence before he brought  him a wife.

Remember, in the Garden of Eden.

Dear Single ladies, before he finds you, has he found God?

Powerful question, but we rarely look into this.

As a matter of fact, he should find you while he’s in the presence of God not the world.

Singles Ladies are always vulnerable to this. Plz get wise and ask questions, make inquiries. Know his Relationship with God. Does he have at all? If not, run for your dear life unless you’re being strongly convicted by God to do so and must be confirmed by two or three witnesses, speaking by divine revelation too.

Mind you, Ungodly husband, if care isn’t taken will end up panel-beating his wife and messing up in the long run.

Be mindful, Dear Singles.


Please young lady listen carefully, don’t let anyone mount pressure on you or make you feel worthless, if you don’t Marry him or accept the proposal that is at your doorstep at the moment your life won’t end.

Many, out of pressure has married or enter into Marriages that at the long run became a byword and a failure.

Hear me, if it’s of God, then it must be orderly and peace-filled and not pressure- filled.

Pressure often comes when you’re not in alignment with your God, the institutor of Marriage.

Pressure is a sign you’re taking the wrong approach.

The Bible says, “he that finds a wife.

Remember, he, the Man will find.The woman just has to position herself.So why the pressure, why the hurry.

Young ladies, don’t marry or accept a proposal under pressure or because they say he’s the best or you think if you lose the opportunity, another may rarely come.

That’s a big lie.

What is yours is yours and at the rightful time will surely surface stresslessly for as long as you standing right with your God.

God never gives things in a hurry.

Good and precious things never come in a hurry.

Don’t trade yourself so cheap. You too should have your choice and not just the man.


When choice is not defined, disaster is inevitable. With God you can find your choice, the Bible says, I’ll give you a helpmeet meet (suitable, compatible) for you.

The above passage of the scripture wasn’t just addressing the Man only.


You too as a woman is part of the equation.

When the rightful helpmeet comes, it’ll be peacefully and not to mount pressure on you.

Many a reason why the pressure surfaces is when you think you’re not measured to the standard of the man.

This is illusion too.

Your Man should be measured to your standard and vice versa.

Another, is when you think your time is passing.

Ooh, are you God.

How do you know your time is passing when you never made yourself. This is illusion too.

Let’s be guided. With God there’s no lateness. However, whenever he comes is the best time.

Truely, with men it might look late but with God that’s the best time and this is always discovered in the long run with men.

Before you say I do, plz take note of these above points.

Thanks for reading. I pray that God will grant you understanding in Jesus name.

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